Attending at Brisbane Counselling Centre are psychologists who are experienced in providing therapy for people facing difficulties in their relationship or who are seeking pre-marriage counselling.

Couples and marriage counselling can also assist people to adjust to changes in their relationship for example, when moving in together, getting married, recovering from an affair, having a baby, going through IVF, experiencing postpartum depression or when one person works in a fly in/fly out situation.

Types ofRelationship Problems

  • Failure to care for one’s relationship

    In order to have a healthy relationship one needs to care for and nurture it. Harmonious relationships don’t just happen by themselves, they take time, energy, focus and commitment. When a person doesn’t look after their partner the connection generally starts to break down. Neglecting a relationship is a sure way to create problems in the partnership or marriage. It doesn’t matter if the people in the relationships are young, middle aged, old, same sex, in their first marriage, third marriage, or de-facto, everyone needs their partner to care for them and receive the message “I love you and you are important in my life.” As much as possible we need to fully engage when we are with our partner, rather than half listening to them or paying attention to something else.

  • Unresolved Conflict

    Conflict happens in almost every relationship. Whilst it is present in most relationships, resolution of the conflict can be difficult to achieve. Typically people disagree about issues, become hurt, frustrated and disappointed. They often fail to talk about it or they may say things that are hurtful and this only takes them further away from finding a solution. When this happens people often participate in what is referred to as the “blame game” and believe that if only their partner would change then the relationship would be so much better. Criticism of one’s partner often becomes a pattern of behaviour that is most destructive and unhelpful. When one is criticised a common reaction is to become defensive and/or critical of the other person. Often at this point people can do and say things that they later regret, which leaves the other person feeling hurt, rejected and misunderstood. A couples counsellor can help people to identify and rectify these destructive patterns and assist the couple in achieving more harmonious interactions.

  • Expectations of others & ideas about how things ‘should’ be

    Another area where problems can occur in relationships is where people hold expectations of their partner that are unrealistic or unachievable. If one person thinks that something needs to be done a certain way and their partner’s view is different from theirs conflict and tension can arise. It is recommended that when in a relationship you share with your partner your expectations and develop ways in which you can work together as a team. Partners can also experience conflict around aspects of life such as the raising of children, parenting methods, sexual interests, financial management, choice of school, household tasks, holiday destinations etc. It is important to keep the lines of communication open about these aspects of life rather than assuming that both of you will be in agreement regarding such issues.

  • Recovery from an affair

    When a partner chooses to connect with another person outside of their relationship, a great deal of pain is usually caused within the relationship or marriage.  It is possible however, to recover from this challenging time in one’s relationship and believe it or not, it is even possible for your relationship to improve and to become healthier than it was before the infidelity.  After an affair, the sooner you seek therapeutic intervention, the faster your relationship will recover.

  • Sexual difficulties

    Every relationship has its ups and downs and invariably people may experience difficulties in sexual interactions at varying stages throughout their life.  Things such as our family background, religion, personal experiences and the portrayal of sex in the media can have an impact upon our view of sexual interactions and how we believe they ‘should’ be.  Common sexual issues people can experience that can have a negative impact on their relationships are porn addiction, erectile issues, desire issues, premature ejaculation, orgasmic difficulties and vaginismus.  Seeking help as soon as you recognise such problems can make a drastic difference to the quality of your relationship.  Early intervention can save a lot of unnecessary pain, embarrassment and unpleasantness in your relationship.

Planning Ahead:Pre-Marriage Counselling?

Healthy relationships typically require some hard work, however, many people don’t think of them in this way, often believing instead that harmonious relationships occur automatically. Most relationships begin in the same way.

Generally a person falls madly in love with another and then can see no wrong in the person with whom they have fallen in love. As the saying goes “Love is blind”! More often, however beautifully a relationship begins, cracks frequently start to emerge and the person who was once thought of as being able to do no wrong, now begins to let their partner down and disappoint them.

Difficulties eventually emerge in the relationship, some of which are easily resolved but others can become intractable. Unhelpful patterns can then develop in the areas of communication, interactions, and conflict resolution. These can frequently result in keeping a couple stuck in an unhealthy way of being together. The same old arguments and discussions are had on a recurring basis, as on a merry-go-round with no clear way to get off the unpleasant ride. Many people consider separating at this point, when an alternative would be to engage in couples or marriage counselling services to gain some expert help in working through these challenging times in their relationship.

Looking for Pre-Marriage Counselling?

Pre-Marriage Counselling can help identify differences in values, behaviour patterns & habits, financial management and cultural & ethical issues in an open, safe and unbiased environment. It aims to provide couples with the communication, conciliation and resolution skill-sets optimal to transitioning into a healthy and long-lasting marriage partnership.

For some, it can also illuminate the difficult subject of ‘marriage readiness’.

Appointments can be made on a session-by-session basis, with many couples satisfied with 1-2 one-hour sessions and others choosing more in-depth therapy or to pursue individual counselling around identified (usually past) issues.

When do we get helpfor our relationship?

All relationships face difficulties that are often resolved over time. Often the sooner you seek assistance the better.  However, if the unhelpful patterns of communicating, interacting and behaving becomes entrenched, it is time to seek professional support through relationship counselling. It is better if possible to seek couples or marriage counselling therapy before the patterns become entrenched. Many relationship problems can be resolved through actively participating in marriage therapy or relationship counselling. Sadly, many people wait until they feel desperate in their relationship before they seek couples counselling or individual therapy. Early intervention with relationship therapy is most beneficial.

If you are able to solve the problems that arise in your relationship by yourselves that is fantastic. However, if you have tried and your attempts have been unsuccessful then engaging a psychologist in couples counselling can be of great assistance in moving your relationship forward and freeing yourselves from the confines of the negative patterns that have formed in your relationship. In an ideal world, both people in the relationship would be willing to seek assistance through relationships counselling. However, sometimes one partner is not open to the idea. Surprisingly even if only one person within the relationship is willing to attend counselling it is possible for that person to work with the therapist on ways to achieve positive change within it.

Couples Counsellingin Brisbane

If you think that your relationship could benefit from seeing a psychologist for couples counselling then please give us a call on 07 3831 4452. Our receptionists are very kind and friendly and are always keen to assist you with any questions you may have. We look forward to being of help!

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