Types of Relationship Problems:
Healthy relationships typically require some hard work, however, many people don’t think of them in this way, often believing instead that harmonious relationships occur automatically. Most relationships begin in the same way. Generally a person falls madly in love with another and then can see no wrong in the person with whom they have fallen in love. As the saying goes “Love is blind”! More often, however beautifully a relationship begins, cracks frequently start to emerge and the person who was once thought of as being able to do no wrong, now begins to let their partner down and disappoint them. Difficulties eventually emerge in the relationship, some of which are easily resolved but others can become intractable. Unhelpful patterns can then develop in the areas of communication, interactions, and conflict resolution. These can frequently result in keeping a couple stuck in an unhealthy way of being together. The same old arguments and discussions are had on a recurring basis, as on a merry-go-round with no clear way to get off the unpleasant ride. Many people consider separating at this point, when an alternative would be to engage in couples or marriage counselling services to gain some expert help in working through these challenging times in their relationship.
When do we get help for our relationship?
All relationships face difficulties that are often resolved over time. Often the sooner you seek assistance the better. However, if the unhelpful patterns of communicating, interacting, and behaving becomes entrenched, it is time to seek professional support through relationship counselling. It is better if possible to seek couples or marriage counselling therapy before the patterns become entrenched. Many relationship problems can be resolved through actively participating in marriage therapy or relationship counselling. Sadly, many people wait until they feel desperate in their relationship before they seek couples counselling or individual therapy. Early intervention with relationship therapy is most beneficial.
If you are able to solve the problems that arise in your relationship by yourselves that is fantastic. However, if you have tried and your attempts have been unsuccessful then engaging a psychologist in couples counselling can be of great assistance in moving your relationship forward and freeing yourselves from the confines of the negative patterns that have formed in your relationship. In an ideal world, both people in the relationship would be willing to seek assistance through relationships counselling. However, sometimes one partner is not open to the idea. Surprisingly even if only one person within the relationship is willing to attend counselling it is possible for that person to work with the therapist on ways to achieve positive change within it.
Couples Counselling in Brisbane
If you think that your relationship could benefit from seeing one of our Brisbane psychologists for couples counselling then please give us a call on 07 3831 4452. Our receptionists (Suellen, Barbara, Jeanette, Sabrina and Marilyn) are very kind and friendly and are always keen to assist you with any questions you may have. We look forward to being of help!